Fuuuck, broke up with my girl today, thought she was the one, remind me that this sick feeling will pass and I'll find someone I adore again.
It will pass. I promise. I’ve been there… oh have I been there. More than once. I know it fucking SUCKS right now… and it feels like you will never smile again… but time will heal. Promise. Stay strong.
so I thought I was a fab nerdy butch trans woman, but then today a trans woman friend of mines said some essentialist comment that she is suspect of butch trans women. :=( I want to cry because I feel like a butch trans woman.
Don’t cry! Don’t listen to one ignorant person. You do you! You know what you are and you know how you feel. There are definitely butch trans women. There are all different kinds of people, whether you’re trans or not.
I feel so trapped in my relationship. it's a constant source of stress. there's no way out. we live together. we have all the same friends. not being together would be even worse than being together because we'd just be in each other's faces all the time and it would be awkward and upsetting and lonely. I miss being attracted to someone and getting butterflies and feeling inspired :( but I'm so trapped :( dating someone in my immediate friend group and living situation was a horrible idea
You need to break up. I know it will really suck for a while, but honestly you don’t want to be unhappy for the rest of your life. And there’s no point drawing it out. It will be hard and it will suck, yes, but it will get better eventually. Staying together won’t get better. I’ve been in a similar situation, living with my girlfriend, having the same friends, etc. You just have to do it. Start by looking for somewhere to live. Your own place, or somewhere with roommates or friends, or maybe you could rent a room somewhere. Then moving out won’t be so scary. As far as friends go, your friends will understand. You just all won’t be able to hang out at the same time. Maybe one day, but not for a while. You’ll just have to hang out separately. You should also probably tell them that you don’t want them to mention or talk about your ex. Hearing about what she’s up to, etc. is only gonna make it worse. You may have to lose a few friends… you never know. But you have to do what is right for YOU. You want to be happy in your life, and staying in this relationship is not going to make you happy. Be strong. I promise you’ll be happier in the long run. You’ll look back and be like, holy shit, thank god I got out of that relationship.
I think the world is going crazy! In 40 years from now an old gay couples will be holding hands on the street?? I mean, do you see things like that in our days? 2 old lesbian women?How can you explain that all this "gay thing" was not so popular in the past? And why there is no such a thing in the nature (have you ever saw a gay dog?cow?cat?) i keep asking myself if we are,the humans, invented all the gayness. And don't get me wrong,i think you awesome.just have to hear your opinion about it
Thank you for your question. Yes, 40 years from now gay and lesbian couples will be holding hands down the street, hopefully with little to no risk of hate and violence that so many before us feared while doing so. And this was “popular” in the past. Here is 150 years of photos of lesbian couples: X
It would be very odd for me to see dogs, cats, or cows walking down the street holding hands (even if they did have hands). However, over 1500 species of animals practice homo-tendencies romantically, sexually or in parenting. Here is a list of ten X There is also an entire species of lizard called the New Mexico Whiptail that is entirely lesbians, all female. No males. X
No, I don’t think we “invented” gayness, but I do think lots of us ignore how much homo-ness is and always was all around us.