I feel so trapped in my relationship. it's a constant source of stress. there's no way out. we live together. we have all the same friends. not being together would be even worse than being together because we'd just be in each other's faces all the time and it would be awkward and upsetting and lonely. I miss being attracted to someone and getting butterflies and feeling inspired :( but I'm so trapped :( dating someone in my immediate friend group and living situation was a horrible idea
You need to break up. I know it will really suck for a while, but honestly you don’t want to be unhappy for the rest of your life. And there’s no point drawing it out. It will be hard and it will suck, yes, but it will get better eventually. Staying together won’t get better. I’ve been in a similar situation, living with my girlfriend, having the same friends, etc. You just have to do it. Start by looking for somewhere to live. Your own place, or somewhere with roommates or friends, or maybe you could rent a room somewhere. Then moving out won’t be so scary. As far as friends go, your friends will understand. You just all won’t be able to hang out at the same time. Maybe one day, but not for a while. You’ll just have to hang out separately. You should also probably tell them that you don’t want them to mention or talk about your ex. Hearing about what she’s up to, etc. is only gonna make it worse. You may have to lose a few friends… you never know. But you have to do what is right for YOU. You want to be happy in your life, and staying in this relationship is not going to make you happy. Be strong. I promise you’ll be happier in the long run. You’ll look back and be like, holy shit, thank god I got out of that relationship.
I think the world is going crazy! In 40 years from now an old gay couples will be holding hands on the street?? I mean, do you see things like that in our days? 2 old lesbian women?How can you explain that all this "gay thing" was not so popular in the past? And why there is no such a thing in the nature (have you ever saw a gay dog?cow?cat?) i keep asking myself if we are,the humans, invented all the gayness. And don't get me wrong,i think you awesome.just have to hear your opinion about it
Thank you for your question. Yes, 40 years from now gay and lesbian couples will be holding hands down the street, hopefully with little to no risk of hate and violence that so many before us feared while doing so. And this was “popular” in the past. Here is 150 years of photos of lesbian couples: X
It would be very odd for me to see dogs, cats, or cows walking down the street holding hands (even if they did have hands). However, over 1500 species of animals practice homo-tendencies romantically, sexually or in parenting. Here is a list of ten X There is also an entire species of lizard called the New Mexico Whiptail that is entirely lesbians, all female. No males. X
No, I don’t think we “invented” gayness, but I do think lots of us ignore how much homo-ness is and always was all around us.
I met a girl via tinder and we instantly hit it off. I ended up sleeping with her the first time we met thanks to too many gin and tonics. I'm not the "hit it and quit it" type so I asked her out to dinner. I'm really attracted to her but during the date she mentioned that she "friend zones" a lot of ladies .We haven't spoken since our date and I guess I'm unsure as to what she wants. I really want to see her again but I'm afraid that she might "friend zone" me as well. What should I do?
Go for it. You’re right, she could friend zone you… but what do you have to lose? You don’t wanna sit around wondering about it. Tell her you enjoyed the time you spent together and ask her if she’d wanna go out again sometime.
!! I have an advice question. I've been talking to this girl for a few months now. She went to my uni but then she graduated and now has a job. We didn't talk for a while but then she contacted me again (even though she lives an hour away) and said she wanted to be friends-and when we were seeing each other before I made it clear I wanted to be friends first. We've been talking again for a few months now... Do you think it would be inappropriate to ask if she was interested in me still?
Nah I don’t think it’s inappropriate. Honesty/communication is never a bad thing. If she does like you, you can see where it goes. If she doesn’t, you can start to move on.
There is this girl, totally funny, quirky and carefree. I like her a lot and asked her out but she is straight. The following day I called her but she said she was busy. I want to be friend with her but I'm not sure whether I should try calling her to tell her that. Do you think I should just let it go?
She might need a little time/space since you just asked her out, you know? Some straight girls get a little freaked out. Or she just might have actually been busy haha. Just wait a bit or if you want text her and say you’d like to remain friends and see what she says.